What I Wish I Knew about Birth
homebirth, labor and delivery

What I Wish I Knew About Birth

How much do you know about birth?  In the media, we see these big, dramatic events.  The woman’s water breaks dramatically.  Her contractions start hard and fast.  She screams at whoever is there that she needs to go to the hospital NOW.  The baby arrives with puffing, panting, and screaming.  Our mothers, grandmothers, aunts, and friends tell us these horror stories about things that happened about during their births.

We learn so little about the mechanics of birth and pregnancy during our biology classes.  We don’t learn that the amniotic sac rarely breaks before labor, but breaks on average at 8 centimeters.  We aren’t taught that contractions start out slow, far apart, and more like a period cramp and progress by getting longer, stronger, and closer together for most women.

So again, I polled my followers on Facebook and Instagram what they wished that they knew about birth before getting pregnant.

Mrsashleystanton says that she wishes she knew that she did not have to give birth at the hospital.

Nicolehemond agrees.  She wished that she waited for her girls to take their time instead of scheduling Sections.  She wishes that she could have had that first skin to skin contact immediately after birth.

Rayanne wishes that she knew that labor and contractions don’t progress the same way for some women.  Inconsistent contractions and being able to talk normally don’t necessarily mean that you aren’t in labor.

Jen says that it would have been helpful to know how pale vernix can make a baby look in those first moments right after birth.  Her partner would have liked to be more prepared for the fact that the skin on the baby’s scalp scrunches up while crowning and looks like an exposed brain.

Kasey says that she wishes that she knew more about after pains.  Did you know that your uterus still contracts after the baby is born?  This happens mostly while baby is nursing.  They get usually get worse with each additional baby.  This helps your uterus to shrink down to its pre-pregnant size.

Samantha wishes that she knew that she did not have to be induced.

I personally wish that I knew about natural childbirth classes with my first birth.


What is something that you wish you knew about birth?  What is something that you would like to read more about birth on this blog?


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Mercy Eizenga LM, CPM

Mercy Eizenga LM, CPM is the head midwife and owner of Comforts of Home Midwifery. Mercy was first exposed to homebirth when she witnessed the birth of her little brother at the age of 7. Her interest in natural childbirth grew with the birth of her first child and then attending Bradley Natural Childbirth classes with a friend a year and a half later. Attending her first birth as a doula verified that she was called to be a midwife. Mercy attended the Association of Texas Midwives Training Program and completed an apprenticeship with what is now the Corpus Christi Birth Center. She holds Texas and Louisiana state licenses and holds her Certified Professional Midwife with the North American Registry of Midwives.

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